Monday, August 18, 2008

Excellent Article from my Church

Especially love the section quoted below, but read the whole thing:


How Would Same-Sex Marriage Affect Society?

Possible restrictions on religious freedom are not the only societal implications of legalizing same-sex marriage. Perhaps the most common argument that proponents of same-sex marriage make is that it is essentially harmless and will not affect the institution of traditional heterosexual marriage in any way. “It won’t affect you, so why should you care?’ is the common refrain. While it may be true that allowing single-sex unions will not immediately and directly affect all existing marriages, the real question is how it will affect society as a whole over time, including the rising generation and future generations. The experience of the few European countries that already have legalized same-sex marriage suggests that any dilution of the traditional definition of marriage will further erode the already weakened stability of marriages and family generally. Adopting same-sex marriage compromises the traditional concept of marriage, with harmful consequences for society.

Aside from the very serious consequence of undermining and diluting the sacred nature of marriage between a man and a woman, there are many practical implications in the sphere of public policy that will be of deep concern to parents and society as a whole. These are critical to understanding the seriousness of the overall issue of same-sex marriage.

When a man and a woman marry with the intention of forming a new family, their success in that endeavor depends on their willingness to renounce the single-minded pursuit of self-fulfillment and to sacrifice their time and means to the nurturing and rearing of their children. Marriage is fundamentally an unselfish act: legally protected because only a male and female together can create new life, and because the rearing of children requires a life-long commitment, which marriage is intended to provide. Societal recognition of same-sex marriage cannot be justified simply on the grounds that it provides self-fulfillment to its partners, for it is not the purpose of government to provide legal protection to every possible way in which individuals may pursue fulfillment. By definition, all same-sex unions are infertile, and two individuals of the same gender, whatever their affections, can never form a marriage devoted to raising their own mutual offspring.

It is true that some same-sex couples will obtain guardianship over children –through prior heterosexual relationships, through adoption in the states where this is permitted, or by artificial insemination. Despite that, the all-important question of public policy must be: what environment is best for the child and for the rising generation? Traditional marriage provides a solid and well-established social identity to children. It increases the likelihood that they will be able to form a clear gender identity, with sexuality closely linked to both love and procreation. By contrast, the legalization of same-sex marriage likely will erode the social identity, gender development, and moral character of children. Is it really wise for society to pursue such a radical experiment without taking into account its long-term consequences for children?

As just one example of how children will be adversely affected, the establishment of same-sex marriage as a civil right will inevitably require mandatory changes in school curricula. When the state says that same-sex unions are equivalent to heterosexual marriages, the curriculum of public schools will have to support this claim. Beginning with elementary school, children will be taught that marriage can be defined as a relation between any two adults and that consensual sexual relations are morally neutral. Classroom instruction on sex education in secondary schools can be expected to equate homosexual intimacy with heterosexual relations. These developments will create serious clashes between the agenda of the secular school system and the right of parents to teach their children traditional standards of morality.

Finally, throughout history the family has served as an essential bulwark of individual liberty. The walls of a home provide a defense against detrimental social influences and the sometimes overreaching powers of government. In the absence of abuse or neglect, government does not have the right to intervene in the rearing and moral education of children in the home. Strong families are thus vital for political freedom. But when governments presume to redefine the nature of marriage, issuing regulations to ensure public acceptance of non-traditional unions, they have moved a step closer to intervening in the sacred sphere of domestic life. The consequences of crossing this line are many and unpredictable, but likely would include an increase in the power and reach of the state toward whatever ends it seeks to pursue.

Monday, August 11, 2008

The Storm Has Passed

Charlie and Josh both had a bit of trouble for a few days and Katie threw up yesterday morning, but everyone appears to be relatively healthy now.

WHEW!

It was horrible seeing Charlie in so much pain and so sad. He is such a sweet, happy baby and I just felt so frustrated that I could not make him better. But he seems to be all better.

As much as I hated to have them sick and as sad as I am that I basically have no more PTO for a while at work, I am so glad I was able to stay home and take care of my family on Wednesday. I wouldn't have wanted anyone else to do it -- not even Josh. When my children are sick, I want to be there, holding their hands and nursing them until they're all better. Being able to just hold Charlie in my arms for long stretches of time throughout the day and let him just nuzzle into my chest and find rest and comfort there was a great feeling. It's moments like that when I know that no one else on earth can take my place with my children and that they need me to be as present in their lives as possible.

Wednesday, August 06, 2008

Florence Nightingale

You: I wonder how Jess is doing today.

Me: Jess is at home nursing a husband and baby, both afflicted with a nasty stomach flu. When people are throwing up all over and diapers are exploding, that's not a good time to be without a washer and dryer. Sigh. Josh has turned a horrible shade of green, yet still manages to look as pale as death. He is also shaking and sweaty and has passed out twice. Charlie has cried more in the past two days than he has in the past 15 months. It makes me so sad to see him so unhappy and in pain.

How are you?

Saturday, August 02, 2008

Just Pictures

Basketball stud


Alek and Lukas, cousins and friends


Charlie spaghetti face


Someone has seen Alek get mad before


Relaxing at Grandma's


Katie in the tub


Charlie in the tub


At my company picnic


Too cute


Just because she's pretty